Lady Hayes
(1818-1883)
6 August 1862

Volume 9, page 41, sitting number 11,163. 

[The sitter is identified as ‘Lady Hayes’ in the Silvy daybooks. This portrait was acquired at the same time as the adjacent portrait of Mrs Thistlethwayte. Both cartes came from an album compiled by a member of the Pakenham family. Pakenham was the maiden name of both Lady Hayes and Mrs Thistlethwayte, so the two women were sisters.]

Born Dublin in 1818, Emily Pakenham was the daughter of Lieutenant-General the Honourable Sir Hercules Pakenham and his wife, the Honourable Emily Stapleton. 

On 3 July 1837 at St George’s, Hanover Square, she married Sir Edmund Samuel Hayes, 3rd Bt., son of Sir Samuel Hayes, 2nd Bt. 

In 1851 Sir Edmund and Lady Hayes were living or staying with Lady Hayes’s two unmarried aunts at Grey Court, Rotherfield Greys Oxfordshire, along with their two sons and six daughters. 

In 1861 Lady Hayes was a widow living in St Helier on the island of Jersey with three daughters and two servants. 

Lady Hayes died, aged 64, on 21 April 1883 at Purbrook Lodge, Cosham, ‘in the Country of Southampton.’ She left an estate valued at £3050.

‘DEATH OF DOWAGER LADY HAYES — Emily Lady Hayes, widow of Sir Edmund Samuel Hayes, Bart., MP, of Drumboe Castle, county Donegal, died at Purbrook Lodgee, Cosham, Hants, on Saturday last. She was the eldest daughter of Lieutenant-General Hon. Sir Hercules Pakenham, KCB, and was born in July, 1818. She married July 3, 1837, the late Sir Edmund Samuel Hayes, Bart., and was left a widow in June, 1860’ (Morning Post, 26 April 1883).

‘She was held in the highest regard in the district, and the poor, to whom she was exceedingly charitable, will miss a good friend’ (Hampshire Telegraph, 25 April 1883).